I have a box that I’ll refer to as my feel-good box. I’ve had this box for about 5 years now. In it, I shift through memories and encounter that hard to come by butterfly feeling. This box contains letters; letters from friends with whom I shared life-altering experiences with on retreats and words from soul-brothers and soul-sisters which convey their love and care for me just because.
I recently took an assessment of my love language. I’ve been reflecting on the differences in how people in my life express their love for me and for themselves. What makes us different? After the assessment, I was made even more aware of the extent to which words of affirmation and appreciation make me feel loved.
Today, I’m taking some time to give back and share some lovin’ with some friends of mine who live in distant places. While not all of my friends may need words of affirmation as much as I do, don’t we all cherish hearing how much our loved ones care for us? I know how much those tangible expressions of care mean on days when we really need them.
In addition to words of affirmation, my other primary love language is quality time. Real, intentional, time free of distractions. Last week, I had just this. I connected with a good friend over cheese, crackers, and wine and good conversation. I felt encouraged by his presence and his willingness to share and was inspired by his experiences. This same friend had shared earlier in the day that he thought the human experience was really all about connecting with others. We did just that.
On this topic, Kahlil Gibran, in The Prophet, shares:
“Your friend is your needs answered. He is your field which you sow with love and reap with thanksgiving. And he is our board and your fireside. For you come to him with your hunger, and you seek him for peace …And let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit.”
Let us all aim to further deepen our spirits through cultivating, in whatever way is best for us, and sowing seeds of love with our friends.
What makes you feel loved? Understanding this will help you in your relationships with others. I shared my love language with at least one important person in my life and have already seen beautiful changes in our friendship. Just some Monday musings for you today…
To find your love language, click this link, or the link above.